Thursday, December 27, 2012

The Story of Dan & Betty Broderick

 Dan Broderick marries Betty....

Betty Marries Dan Broderick
Attractive, smart and well bred, Elisabeth Anne Bisceglia (Betty), met Daniel Broderick at a pep rally. Dan introduced himself to her by writing his name on a piece of paper, "Daniel T. Broderick III MD (A). It stood for medical doctor almost because he was in med school. He was gangly and wore horn rimmed glasses. The ultimate geek. But Betty must have been impressed by something because they were soon inseparable. And as soon as Betty graduated they became engaged.

Before the wedding, Betty had her own money from teaching third graders and she lived comfortably with her parents who were quite well to do. After the wedding Dan took charge of everything. Betty later stated this in a negative tone and many women's libers pointed to this as Dan's cruelty, but Betty wanted a man who would take charge, and the dominant male traits that Dan was beginning to show in their relationship where what led Betty to believe that Dan was the man for her.

She and Dan had an elaborate wedding ceremony, but within two weeks of the marriage she was stating that she wanted a divorce. One of Dan's close friends, Brian Monaghan, told newspapers after Dan's murder that less than one month after their wedding, Dan had emotionally told him that he felt he had made a terrible and tragic mistake. Dan stated that when he was only 24 years old Betty would walk around in a huff. When he asked her what was wrong, she would state, "If you don't know what I'm upset about, then you've got a areal problem. I don't want to talk about it. I want to be divorced."

Betty was pregnant within one month of their wedding ceremony. Since Dan was only on his fourth year of Medical school, Betty worked every day up until the day her daughter Kim's birth. Dan and Betty relied entirely on Betty's earnings as a teacher, and from her part time job as a sales girl, for support.

In order to keep money coming in and raise young Kim at the same time, Betty began babysitting full time. She watched other young couples babies while they attended school during the day, and even had a night crew of kids to look after when those who were attending night school needed a sitter. To make use of the weekends and holidays, Betty also sold Avon and Tupperware in the dorm.

Dan spent 90% of his time studying. He did some part time work as a taxi driver and as a lab tech whenever the Brodericks needed spending money.

Dan was almost finished with med school, but of course there were more years of training ahead of him such as internship, residency, and specialization. But after four straight years of medical school right after college, Dan was getting other ideas about what to do with his future.

Dan applied for law school. Medical malpractice was a fast growing speciality with multi-million-dollar settlements, and Broderick realized that someone with degrees in both medicine and law would have an advantage. Dan was accepted at Harvard Law School, which was at that time considered the very best law school in the country.

At this time Betty thought that Dan should attend law classes at night and work during the day, but Dan wanted to stay focused on his education.

The three Brodericks, Dan, Betty, and Kim moved to Massachusetts where Betty had to take a bus to the laundromat to wash Kim's diapers.

In 1971 Betty had to drive herself to the hospital to deliver their second child because Dan was busy with a law school paper. Betty did not complain at the time because she believed that each partner was doing their part in achieving common goals together. Betty was the dutiful wife, happy and contented with her babies during the day, yet frustrated by her husbands lack of time to spend with the family.  Dan studied hard, and attended classes, yet he managed to find time to go out drinking with friends after class. He would come home drunk and playful while Betty was literally worn out.

Before Dan graduated from Harvard, Betty had a third child who was still born.

Sad times for Betty, but then came the great day that Dan earned his law degree and could actually start working.

Dan was quickly earning a handsome income working as an associate with a prestigious law firm. Betty was anxious to buy a home of their own and the Broderick family packed up and moved to San Diego California.

They bought their first home in the Coral Reef section of La Jolla, one of the most expensive areas in the state, Where highly educated doctors, lawyers, and business owners tend to be much more conservative than the government workers of southern San Diego.

In 1976 the Brodericks moved into their five bedroom home on the southwest side of Mt. Soledad, the mountain that overshadows La Jolla. Betty finally had her own washer and dryer, and a huge upscale home that would take several years to furnish. Betty had a few miscarriages, but the same year they moved into their new home, Daniel T. Broderick IV was born, and Betty returned to work as a night hostess and cashier at a Black Angus restaurant.

Things were not rosy by a long shot, but life for Dan and Betty Broderick was getting easier. They could afford to add a swimming pool to their Coral Reef home. But, Dan wanted more success and assured Betty that when he finally achieved his ultimate goal of a large home, sports cars and trips to Europe, it would be all worth it. He now took out huge loans to start his own law practice. This would not only mean more debt after struggling to pay off his school loans, but it would mean longer hours for him, as any self employed person experiences.

In 1979 Betty's fourth and final child was born. He was named after Dan's favorite movie hero, Rhett Butler. 

Dan was immediately highly successful as a self employed attorney. He kept his overhead light, and did not even hire his own secretary. Instead, he shared one with other lawyers and made his own appointments.

It was the early 80s and Dan & Betty were members of two country clubs, and invested in property near the Del Mar Racetrack that Bing Crosby and other Hollywood greats built during the Glory Days of Hollywood.

Dan loved to ski, and bought a vacation condo in Colorado. He bought a ski boat and began taking Betty to Europe and on cruises.  The Brodericks were now entertaining regularly and living large.

Dan and Betty were at odds with each other emotionally, but were at least more comfortable in life financially. During a formal gathering Betty recalled over hearing Dan enthusiastically saying, "isn't she beautiful?" to one of his colleagues. It got Betty's attention because she had never heard Dan speak so enthusiastically and naturally about any other women. She later asked Dan who he was talking about and he told her it was a receptionist named Linda Kolkena, who worked for some of the lawyers.

Dan was growing more and more moody with Betty and did not attend a month long camping trip she took with the kids. When they attempted to call Dan, he was almost never there to answer the phone. When the family returned home from vacation Betty could see that Dan was not at all happy to see them.

Dan soon announced that he had hired an assistant to help him with things. Betty was glad to hear about that until she discovered that his assistant was Linda Kolkena.

Linda was similar in appearance to Betty although most would agree that she was cuter, smaller and more feminine in personality and attire. Betty's friends began telling Betty that they had seen her husband out with a tacky young blond for lunch, drinks and dinners. 

Linda had a happy childhood, and after high school she became a flight attendant for Delta Air Lines, however, left the business under shameful circumstances. Betty Broderick supporters were smug to learn from Betty's defense team that Linda had been fired from the airline after using foul language and engaging in a sexual encounter with a male passenger after getting quite drunk on the flight. When reprimanded by her superiors, Linda again cursed and acted like anything but a lady. When warned against using vulgar language Linda stated that this is the way she always talks and that she saw nothing wrong with it.

It was also discovered that Linda had moved to southern California in 1982 in pursuit of a man who had traveled there. After Linda took the receptionist job that introduced her to Dan, that pursuit ended immediately.

Another man Linda was dating named Steve Kelley, stated that Linda talked about her boss all the time. She said he was an "incredible guy". Steve, feeling stirred up by the statements, asked straight out if they were having an affair. Linda denied any involvement with Dan, but Kelley was still suspicious. When Linda showed him her spacious office and he discovered that she was earning $30,000 as his assistant in a one-man law firm, even though she had no training what so ever,  things were looking mighty strange.

Betty hired a housekeeper who had reported finding strange swim suits around the pool when she and the family were away.  Betty confronted Dan in what she considered to be a nice way. She told Dan to get rid of Linda in one month or else. Dan responded by lying to Betty about any involvement with Linda. He bought a red corvette and stated that he wanted the family to live a more glamorous lifestyle.

When Betty's thirty sixth birthday came around, Dan did not come home. Betty tried to pretend it was okay and she celebrated with the four kids.

One of Betty's biggest mistakes was that she stayed out of Dan's way. 

She dressed herself up for Dan's birthday, grabbed a bottle of bubbly, and went to Dan's office. There she found a bottle of wine and two wineglasses from her own wedding crystal and a chocolate moose cake in the refrigerator. Betty did not have a clue that Dan even had a refrigerator at his office. She was such an infrequent guest at his place of business.  Dan and Linda were no where to be found, and the receptionist who was sitting in Linda's former job told her that Linda and Dan had left before lunch and hadn't returned. Betty decided to sit in Dan's office and wait.

She walked around, noticing the brass nameplate on Linda's door and the view from the full sized windows. Betty then saw a photo of Dan at age 22. It appeared to be a gift from Dan to Linda. Years later at the trial, Steve Kelly also remarked on the photo of Dan who was sitting on horseback and looking like a dashing hero from a classic movie. An unusual thing for an assistant to have of her boss.

After watching the sunset, Betty drove back to La Jolla in a fury.

When Betty arrived home she grabbed all of Dan's tailor made suits and threw them in the backyard in a heap and set fire to them.

Dan finally arrived home to find a distraught Betty asking for a divorce. Dan had an explanation for everything. He said that he and Linda went out to lunch and then had to go to work taking depositions. When Betty accused Dan of an affair repeatedly, Dan suggested that Betty get some mental help.

Those in the legal profession believe that Dan was trying to get Betty to seek therapy so that when the S*** hit the fan, he could site that she was admitting to her emotional troubles by seeking therapy.

Dan was raised in a religious family with a strong moral code but now that he was in liberal California, he was no longer feeling responsible for his actions and was becoming at ease with telling lies, changing the rules and being selfish. Betty still believed marriage was forever. When things were tough, they would work through their troubles, and when times were good, they would rejoice.

Shortly after the holidays in 1985 Dan announced that he needed more space, when in reality he was receiving a lot of pressure from Linda to get a divorce.

In a desperate attempt to get her husband back Betty dropped her four kids on Dan's doorstep, reminding him that he was the father of four, and more importantly letting Linda see that life with her husband would mean more than just a brand new car, and all the luxuries that money could buy.

Now Dan was living with all four children in the house while Betty was alone in a rented house that she claimed was overrun with rats.

At first Dan did not like the children cramping his style but then he used their presence as a weapon against Betty. 

Dan hired housekeepers and a governess to help him out. He began taking his work home with him more often and staying out late less.

Betty lived in La Jolla Shores, and made regular visits to the Coral Reef house to spend time with the kids. Then when Betty saw signs of Linda being present in the home with her children she began vandalizing the home and destroying Dan's belongings. Dan's maid testified that Betty found a Boston Cream pie that Linda Kolkena had made for the family and smeared it all over Dan's bedroom. When Dan tried to get a court order to keep Betty out he discovered that he could not do anything since Betty's name was on the deed.

Dan filed for divorce and the nightmare was on. 

Dan agreed to give Betty $9,000 per month for her needs. He also agreed to continue paying her insurance, taxes, and fees for her social outlets, including country clubs and social hobbies.

Suddenly, Dan's relationship with Linda was no longer a secret. Linda accompanied Dan to Colorado for his brother Larry's annual Oktoberfest party. When Betty found out that Linda had been part of a Broderick family party, she again insisted on seeing Dan. 

He admitted that she had been right all along about the affair. When Betty expressed outrage at his immoral attitude and lack of integrity, he suggested she go to a mental institution.

Betty was so enraged that she called Dan and Linda names often.

 Betty has become notorious for the vulgar names that she called her husband and his mistress, but Lee Broderick says that her mother was not the only one calling names. Linda and Dan both referred to Betty as "fat, disgusting, beastly and the monster."

Dan did not wish to talk to Betty any further, and it has been said that Dan was cold because he did not make more of an effort to be kind towards Betty, and did all he could to hurt her. Just why would he do this? There are very few people who can add any insight into why Dan was deliberately being cruel towards Betty, and the number one theory is that Linda Kolkena was putting tremendous pressure on her lover to dump his wife cold and give her the royal life that she wanted.

Dan moved out of the Coral Reef house and into a home on 1041 Cypress Avenue. Linda openly lived with Dan and the entire Broderick family, except Betty.

By 1985  Betty was desperately depressed. Everything that was once hers was now Linda's. Her family lived together on Cypress Avenue with Linda Kolkena, the woman who had caused her so much grief.

Dan sold Betty's Coral Reef home out from under her, and now Betty was really losing it. She hopped into her Suburban and rammed Dan Broderick's front door down while her daughter Kim was standing in the kitchen fixing dinner with her father.

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The Murder

At approximately 5 AM Betty Broderick walked to the front of her ex husbands home and attempted to unlock the door with a set of keys she had with her. The keys did not work so she walked to the back door and entered quietly.

She wandered through the darkened home like a burglar and up the stairs to the bedroom that Dan Broderick,  and his new bride of seven months who was now trying to conceive slept. According to Betty's testimony she heard a loud gun shot noise and someone yell, "call the police" and then she ran out of the house, calling an old friend of hers to say that she had "shot the bastard" and then to call her daughter Lee to ask for help.

Nobody knew where Lee lived except Betty. Dan had become estranged from his rebel daughter who was now living with her boyfriend. Dan was so much at odds with his daughter that she was not allowed to have his private phone number. Betty now feared that Dan had sent the cops to her home while she was in the bedroom about to shoot them.

When Betty arrived at her daughter's place she said that she thought she shot Dan but was not sure because it was dark. Lee was not sure if she should believe her mother because her mom had been irrational and emotional for quite some time. Lee asked if there was blood and if anyone was hurt, and Betty replied that she did not thing she really shot Dan because he sat up and said   'Okay, you shot me. I'm dead."  Lee's boyfriend, Jason Prantil also recalled that Betty was truly distraught.

"She wasn't making a lot of sense," he told the jury. "She looked like she had been up for a couple of days. She looked like she was sick, like she was panic-stricken."

Betty insisted that Dan had called the police and that they would be looking for her car. She wanted Lee and Jason to drive her to the police station so she could surrender. Trying to calm her nearly frantic mother, Lee made a cup of tea for Betty, who took one sip and ran retching to the bathroom.

The police were just arriving at the house on Cypress Avenue. Soon after Betty had spoken to Dian, a chain of friends and lawyers were called. Until finally someone tried calling the Broderick home, and after no answer, an ambulance and the police were called.

Linda and Dan were found dead with some of Dan's friends feeling for a pulse. A puddle of vomit was found that resembled cookies-and-ice cream.

On the landing, telephone wires that Betty had ripped from the wall were lying in a hasty heap.

As the attorney's walked down stairs to call police a patrol car pulled up.

Lee called her older sister Kim who was living in Tucson attending college. Kim was not alienated from her father as Lee was.

Kim talked to her sister briefly and then to her mom, She later said that Betty told her that she had shot both of them, but was not sure if she had hit anyone. Betty then told her daughter, "you know I had to do it, I could not let him live. It was one or the other."

After talking to her eldest daughter, Betty asked Lee and Jason to check on the younger boys. She also wanted her telephone book and keys, and told Lee where to look for them in her house in La Jolla.'

When Lee arrived, her brother Rhett was riding his bike on the empty street. She went inside to look in the cup on the mantel for the keys and in the kitchen for the phone book, but could find neither in the locations Betty suggested. When she went back outside to take to her little brother, Lee became aware that "the police were hiding in the bushes of the next-door neighbor's house."

The came out and asked if she had seem her mother. Lee answered, "no". They asked what she was doing there. and Lee responded that she was going to get her laundry. Lee then went inside and got her laundry and quickly left.

When Lee returned home, she discovered that her mom had been calling friends and telling them what she had done.

It appeared that Betty was being meek and possibly attempting to appear that she had a moment of insanity. When speaking with her daughter Lee, she was quick to say that she was not sure if she had actually shot anyone, and at the trial she stuck with her story that she heard the gun go off only once and then ran, but one of her close friends whom she had called while hanging around her daughter's apartment immediately told her boyfriend who was right beside her after she received the message from Betty.

Betty had called a woman named Patti and had given her the gruesome details. Patti Monahan, however, when questioned on the witness stand had forgotten the details, but her boyfriend Jerry Thatcher, remembered clearly what Patti had told him Betty told her. Betty said that she shot him five times. He was gurgling in his own blood, and it's true what they say. "they really do shit in their pants."

Betty also called her parents who recalled that she was sobbing hysterically, and saying that Dan is driving her crazy. She never mentioned shooting anyone. 

Dan & Betty Broderick, And Linda


Saturday, December 22, 2012

Losing Unemployment Benefits? Here Is My Solution

You can make Money on Hubpages

A few months ago I was in a panic because my unemployment benefits were running out. I was only getting $340 per week, but it was certainly better than nothing. Besides, I had learned how to make it last. I realized that it would all come to an end shortly, and was panicking because although I wanted to apply for an extension, I knew I would not get one.

I had been looking for work and been rejected for everything under the sun. I actually was turned of looking because I really did not even want a job after all the torment I had experienced in my previous position.

Fortunately I discovered Hubpages. I just received my first payment of over $50 from Hubpages, and I am determined that this site will pay my bills in the months to come.

 I have a goal of writing a for doing nothing, but Hubpages is doing the same thing. Of course you have to put out the effort in the first place, but from then on it is passive income. In order to keep myself motivated I read the Hubpages success stories at least once per week. It keeps me motivated and I learn by reading about what others have done.

To sign up with Hubpages and begin your quest for passive income just click- Hubpages. It may be the best thing you ever do for yourself. I personally am glad that my unemployment ran out, because I would never have been driven to the desperate point of trying to find a way to make money without having a job. One thing tends to lead to another, and I have started a few blogs to further supplement what I earn here on Hubpages, and while I am waiting for them to grow in traffic, I use this site to write as many articles as possible that can be linked to my sites. After I write and link my sites, I am still at the beginning level of earning around here so I joined WebAnswers to make some very easy money online.

I am very pleased with WebAnswers because they do pay quite well, partly because they are still in a trial level of launching and they seem to be very generous in an effort to get people to join. I highly recommend joining Hubpages and WebAnswers to diversify and because it takes longer to earn on Hubpages. The best way to go about it is to join both and answer as many questions as you can with WebAnswers and slowly produced hubs on Hubpages. To join WebAnswers CLICK HERE

After playing around with writing here on Hubpages, I wrote an eBook, and published it. By next year I will have approximately 200 articles here, many questions answered on WebAnswers, at lest 5 eBooks published, and about 3 blogs generating income.

I have never been this excited about a job before in my whole life. I am thrilled now, because I don't need a job, and I will easily make more here than in those stressful office jobs that I have always had.
If you are unsure about which blogging platform to use there is Google's Blogger, and WordPress. I recommend Blogger because it is free and easy to make money with.

To sell an eBook just go to, Amazon, or Kindle, and upload your writing. After publishing one, you may wish to start a blog specifically to sell your eBooks by yourself. To do this, you need a paypal business account.

The way we make money here on Hubpges, and WebAnswers is by AdSense. It takes time to learn all about Google's AdSense, but it is such a great system that I personally know a man who has had a successful health food business that he has decided to close down in order to spend more time with AdSense and his blog. The health business he had was making more than 100K per year. He is not making anywhere near that amount right now with AdSense, but he has only been at it for a few months, and as a business man, he knows he can do it.

I hope I can inspire and help some people who are losing their unemployment benefits and need an alternative to a job.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Marry Rich! Marry a Millionaire and Live Like a Queen

 Find a rich husband and make it the easy way. This blog is generally intended to bring out the entrepreneur in a lady. This post may teeter on bringing the lady part out of the entrepreneur. Never forget that you are both!  This article is a little unique in that I will be talking to women who have decided that rather than excel in building their own business and doing it all from scratch on their own, would rather do it the old fashioned way, - by Marrying a Millionaire!

Its okay, You are perfectly safe here at Entrepreneur Lady, because we do not get on our high horse and judge, we look at our personalities, abilities and make an honest and level headed decision on how we are to achieve success.

If you believe that you need a man to help you out and make life easier, then you just may be better off marrying rich than denying who you are.  Just keep in mind that this is not always the easy way of achieving wealth. It can be difficult being involved with a man who has power, and often times men with power can be difficult to live with. But, having pondered starting your own business and marrying a wealthy man for some time and you keep thinking that your best bet is to marry rich, then this article is for you.

It is not hard to get men interested, and therefore it is not difficult to get them to marry you. When you see women clinging to men for years, wanting a proposal and never getting it, this is because the woman did not play her cards right. If you are one of those women you have some learning to do. If a poor guy will throw you around, a man of wealth will certainly do it too. Its all about how you present yourself and the ground rules you set early on.

Its just as easy to hook a rich man as it is to get hooked by a poor one.

The rule of thumb is this. Never have sex with a man on the first date. I don't care how modern you are and how much you think it should be okay. In a man's mind you have proven yourself to be cheap by doing this. Please don't sleep with a man and say, "I don't usually do this, but this is one "special" time." Men laugh inside when women say things like that because they have heard it with every floozy they have had a one night stand with. Its as corny as a man passionately taking your clothes off and whispering, "don't worry, I respect you." Doesn't that have a cheesy red flag ring to it? Well, the only way of proving to a man that you are not just another hooker putting out with any man she meets and hoping one of them will eventually marry her, is to show him that you are different. Actions speak louder than words. Never have sex on the first date, and hold out as long as possible. If you have been dating a man for three months and you are having a great time getting to know him and have a lot in common with him things should work out well. If you are not doing much with the guy except fooling around and saying "no" when it gets too close, and the guy suddenly dumps you, then its a good thing you did not give in because he only wanted one thing anyway. A quality man who may lead to something serious will make an effort to entertain you by taking you to a variety of places for dates, and your conversations should be fun, and stimulating.

The early dating days are where you show him your morale. Men want a woman with high standards and high morals. At least the ones who are worth marrying do.  When a man marries a woman he wants something special, not something that has been on her back with every guy in town.  

The more money he has the more he will demand that his woman be something special. 

How long should you wait? As long as possible. Some women don't have sex with men they are not married to, and others have to be with a man for several months, but generally there is no such thing as waiting too long. If you have been with a guy for six weeks or three months and he stops calling, don't think that if you would have slept with him it would have been all different. That simply means he was only looking for a piece of ass and you showed him that you are not it. He will carouse around and find other women to use. Its no loss and a lot better to get shed of him that way than to be used by him.

Think back to the 1950s and even before that time.  I guarantee you there were not so many women "trying" to get men to marry them. There were nowhere near as many single moms or any of the relationship problems of today. This is because women knew not to be easy. My old fashioned mother did not teach me much but I remember she stressing that once you sleep with a man they don't like you anymore and will think you are bad. I never slept with men and have never suffered the fate of my friends who did.  I did not exactly wait until I was married either, but I waited a good couple of months before I decided a relationship was strong enough and I was interested enough to become physically involved. I have personally always had men proposing to me, and falling in love. I attribute my strong level of importance on high standards to be a great part of this. Men have respected, and valued me early on in a relationship.

When a man feels that he has worked hard for your affection he values it. when your emotions and your body come easy, he will not see value it them. This is the way men innately are. I know all the feminists are fuming and saying, "that's not right, a guy should not be like that." But, men are like that and always will be. A smart woman will look at reality and make the facts work in her favor.

If you want to win and avoid all the heart ache that comes to women who think that they are going to win a guy through sex, do not fall into the same trap that most women fall into, avoid hanky panky. 

 Hookers who will fall down on their backs and deliver mind blowing sex are a dime a dozen. A classy lady who picks and chooses who is worth her time is most definitely a rarity these days. The guy would rather have the rarity, trust me.

I give advice to women every day and I consistently tell them not to give in. I tell them to be fun, light hearted and sweet, and not to have sex with their dates. The ones who follow my advice gain control, and the ones who give in to the guy and decide to ignore this old fashioned yet sound advice, begin having regrets within hours to days after they have lost control on their date. 

When women have intercourse with men they often feel closer to their guy, and they can leave the date with their hearts dancing, with the high expectation of what excitement is coming next, but a man will often leave a date in which he has gotten what he wanted with a negative feeling. He will wonder what this women is now expecting of him, and some of the negative feelings that he may have suppressed about you will now materialize.

I have heard on more than one occasion a guy meets this woman who is beautiful, flirtatious and exciting, and the guy whole heartedly pursues the girl and has sex with her within the first three dates. After the guy climaxes, yes that soon, he looks at the girl and thinks, "she really is not that pretty". Then he thinks, "what kind of girl would do this with a guy she hardly knows?" Then he thinks, "I better split." This is a common scenario, so please do not become a victim. Those old fashioned rules that smart women have followed for years were put in place for a reason and no amount of high talking feminism will change it. 

Something interesting I heard years ago. -Men love hunting. They will go out at strange hours, in physically uncomfortable situations to hunt an animal. Once they have caught the animal, they will sit with it and have their picture taken with it, and will parade it around like a trophy. They will talk endlessly about their catch with pride. Now, if a Moose were to wander to a man's front door and drop dead, do you think for a minute that a man will want his picture taken with it, and brag about it? No! he will just say lets get rid of this thing! 

You want to be the beautiful and evasive gazelle the man is hunting, not the dead moose he has to get rid of.

A woman who is hard to get will make a man glow with pride after he has finally "caught" her. He will talk about her with a dancing heart, and present her with pride. A woman who gives herself up becomes the dead moose who the guy has to figure out how to get rid of. 

Have you ever seen the young, teenage girl going to "hang out" at her boyfriend's house uninvited? Yes, eventually he will verbally dump her because her unannounced visits will make it hard for him to bring other girls around, and she will wonder why he does not just keep seeing her.
  - Or the girl who constantly sends text messages and makes phone calls to her "boyfriend" with very little response outside of an occasional invite to his house, or to a movie and then his house? Real couples will have conversations. That means that a "date" consisting of watching a play, game, or movie is not "real" interaction. It is something he could be doing with his friends or by himself. Having you there is just for something to play with and then possibly score from at the end. Love will not happen when there is no real interaction between the two of you.  

If you are sitting here counting on your fingers that you have been on ten dates with a guy and five of them consisted of sitting in a chair watching a movie, the three of them were sitting in a chair watching a basketball game, and two of them were dinner dates, then you have only been on two dates with this guy. You interacted with him for maybe four hours. That is not enough getting to know you for him to feel very much for you. It works differently for men. They take longer to fall in love, but once they do, they really fall hard.

To be more than a piece of flesh... 

Be interesting..

If you have hobbies, pursue them, if you don't have any then get some quick. Have you ever wondered how interesting you are? If someone is in a position to have a relationship with you they will have to be interested. What makes you more interesting than other women? It is important to have something you do if you want to marry a rich man. 

For the most part rich men are busy and women who can not entertain themselves are often disappointed in them which results in- no marriage

Poor men have time to lavish on you, but rich men will want you do be self sufficient. Don't cling or demand that they spend all their time on you. Once they see you are doing your own thing, they will be more likely to take a real interest in you as a person. Have hobbies or even business ventures you pursue. Women who run in marathons, take lessons in something, or engage in business ventures are much more interesting to talk to, and give men a much better feeling of security than women who do nothing but go to their job and go home and watch television.

How to meet rich men. 
You must think of this as your business if you are really serious about marrying a rich man. 

I talk to women who say they want a rich husband all the time, and when I ask them where they are going to meet them, they just say, "well, I went to a night club this Saturday."
 Reality check You are likely to meet the bottom of the barrel men at night clubs. Don't waste your time!

If going to a night club is the way you are going about dating, you probably need to work on those hobbies we were just talking about. You see, as I said, I talk to women about this all the time and I have noticed that women who do not know what to do with themselves go to night clubs.  
Chances are you will not find a rich husband there.

If you do not play golf, you need to take lessons and take it seriously. Go to a country club after you are playing relatively well, and you will meet millionaires and billionaires. You should also learn how to play tennis. This is because the idle class all have tennis courts and many live on golf courses and have their own putting greens. To fit in, you should do as the rich do. 
If you don't know how to ski, you need to learn now.  By simply skiing, playing golf and tennis, you will automatically be traveling in the same circles that attract men with money. 

Take golf lessons and practice on a regular basis. Before donning your argyle best and heading off to the country club, you should practice at the lower level courses. Looking like a clutz in a country club is not going to win you any admirers.

If you are in the San Diego area click here to find a variety of golf courses.  

If you live in the Los Angeles California area and want to find some courses in your area click here. 

 Some of the most cleaver women have gone skiing by themselves and met rich business owners or even just doctors who have the day off and want to release stress. A woman who is out releasing stress in a physical activity can be so much more appealing than a girl who puts on a whore suit and heads off to a night club with her single friends. If you don't meet anyone right away, you will at least get a good workout.
I realize that these things cost money, but you will need to invest a little in order to hit the jackpot.  

Read Glenda Goodwitch Article. How To Attract Quality Men, and Marry the One You Want

How to Marry a Millionaire or Billionaire 

Dating a Married Man   

How To Handle Loving and Dating a Married Boyfriend

Friday, November 23, 2012

Podcasting; How to Podcast

Podcast Basics

A podcast is a digital media file, usually in audio or video format. The name podcast is a combination of the names pod, as in i pod, and broadcast. So your podcast material is broadcasted on the internet in a blog or website, or podcast directory. Podcasts are often done in a series, like having episodes that are shown regularly. If you are already a blogger, the concept is already clear, the marketing and basic idea is the same, its just a matter of adding video and audio. The more consistent and organized your blog posts are, the better your chances for success. If you choose to start a podcast, you are up against the same issues a blogger faces. It will take time and organization to develop a sold following.
If you have not done a podcast before, it can be a little stressful, to say the least. With a little patience, it will become relatively simple. You will need a microphone, computer, audio editing software, an RSS feed, and a website or hosting service that you can upload podcasts to.

  • Audio podcasts. Contain sound only, and are small in file size making them easier to download and play on any portable music player. Some people like these, and others feel that by not having video, they are missing out on a major part of podcasting experience.
  • Video podcasts. have audio and video included, making them larger in file size, requiring a music player with video capabilities. Putting together a video is far more complicated as far as business presentation goes, you will want your environment, attire, and lighting to present your professional image.

Either video or audio podcasts can be effective ways to market your business by providing information, knowledge, branding, and entertainment.

Once coming up with a topic for a podcast, write an outline being sure that you have a solid theme. Think of English 101, and the thesis sentence, and the supporting issues. Make sure it flows, in an organized manner that does not deter too far off the main subject. Be sure to always have a plan when creating a podcast. It is easy to become cocky and think that because you have done this a few times you don't need to have so much structure, but believe me, that is how your casts start looking disorganized and as a result you lose audience. Pilots always go through a check list that they read out loud, and their co pilot repeats back each check, no matter how obvious the checks are, they go through this routine because it has been shown that it prevents accidents. Having organized systems will keep your podcasts from appearing haphazard.
Organize the structure of how you want it presented and where you want it to break. A good way to get started is to take a look at some podcasts that others have done.
Just as with blogging, the key factor to building subscribers to your podcasts is to be regular about it. Once per week is a good, regular schedule.
Watch a few good tutorials on on podcasts before you attempt one yourself.

Create A Podcast

To create your own podcast you will need a computer with recording software and microphone. Recording software varies in terms of complexity and cost but free software such as Audacity is somewhere to start.
As far as editing goes, be sure and remove excess background noise. Many podcasts begin and end with a little music. You may wish to look into Royalty-Free Music just to be on the safe side.
Markers will let you add chapter titles, and URLs
If you wish to submit your podcast to Apple iTunes, you may wish to have artwork that represents your podcast.
RSS: Users can subscribe to your cast. This is done though the creation of an RSS feed that is based on the MP3 file of your podcast. The RSS feed for your podcast contains links to the pod episodes.


This is the new world of networking, teaching and learning: 3-D animation sites.
Second life, TelePlace, Protosphere, and Olive, are new 3-D virtual environments.They may remind you of Yoville, for those who play games on Facebook. You are in cartoon land all over again, and can create anything you want. This may seem like kid stuff, but major corporations are using this technology, and it is rumored to be a part of business structure in the future. It is also being experimented with for teaching foreign languages. These 3-D virtual world communities will be a bigger and more important part of business seminars and conferences, as well as networking events as they evolve. These sites are a little tricky to get used to however, users have discovered that these sites have a very supportive team, and provide a lot of network training.

You will need a headset, microphone and a tutorial before you begin.

Using Search Engines

Once you have made your podcast you will want it indexed and as visible as possible on Google. A few ways to do this is to add text to your podcast and use keywords that people will be searching, and optimizing a landing page with relevant text. This gives search engines more information to the audio file that will help them stand out. The more key word text you have, the better your chances of being found.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Teach Children Money Management

Parenting is a major life altering step, and I am forever baffled by parents who fall in love with their children and buy them what ever they want. 


 I understand perfectly that we want to see our children happy, but the ultimate goal of raising children is to raise competent adults. Buying children what they want is a sure fire way to disillusion your children and send them on the path to failure and poverty.

Did you ever really think about that?

Ultimately, what do yo want for your children? They won't be adorable bundles of joy forever.

How do you picture them as adults? 

Well, when I picture my son as an adult, I picture something wonderful, like Mitt Romney. I am certainly not the only one shooting for the top on this hope and dream. I picture a happy man of strong solid morale, with the ability to take care of himself in a big way. I don't see and uneducated factory worker who hates his job because that is not what I want for the little person I love so much.

So, how am I going to get my son to the top and keep him from falling to the bottom?  This is what parents need to ask themselves from the beginning. It is never too early to lay the foundation.

In the United States we are lucky because we have the opportunity to succeed no matter what our background is.  If we have the right mindset we have the chance to make a fortune and therefore provide well for our families.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks the average person has when it comes to raising a child into an adult with the tools to become financially stable is that many people of modest means resent success. Before you start denying it...

If you have an attitude that is negative towards money, wealth and success, you will always find ways to keep yourself poor. If you have allowed yourself to believe that "money is the root of all evil", "rich people are greedy", or "anyone with a lot of money is a crook",  your habits and attitudes will rub off on your child, forever keeping your family down.  In order to get over your financial problems you must truly believe that it is not a sin to achieve. Otherwise your subconscious mind will never allow you to become an "evil  rich person."

These jealous and negative emotions that you may harbor must to be thrown out with the dirty diapers because they will breed failure for you and for your young innocent minds that are bound to absorb everything from you. 

No one wants to be called greedy, selfish, or a crook, and if your children hear you saying this, they will not strive for success and their financial failure will be a subconscious way of remaining a "good person." If your friends and family are comforting their lack of success with excuses such as, "I am happy with very little", and "money isn't everything", or "rich people are wealthy because they abuse us", just ignore their mindset and let them lick their wounds with these words while you take the higher ground, and begin doing things that they have no understanding of. Years from now they will wonder how your kids turned out so strong while theirs continue to ask them for handouts.

As a parent who wants the best for their offspring you need an open mind, and if you believe that rich people are bad, then its time to stop being narrow minded and look at some facts. 

The richest people in the world have traditionally given millions and sometimes billions away to charities. Rockefeller and Carnegie both gave billions of dollars away. The media likes to demonize wealth, which does not help our morale when trying to teach our children how to be successful. It is not uncommon to turn on the television and see an Andrew Carnegie documentary focused on how much money he made, without reminding us that Carnegie gave away almost 90% of his entire fortune by the time he died.

On a personal note. I was a student nurse in San Diego, and all of the student nurses were being sent to hospitals to get some clinical hours in. On one round of clinicals, I was sent to La Jolla, which was the upper class hospital. 

All the student nurses were booing and saying that they did not want to go to the "rich, stuck up hospital." Well, after our clinicals, all the nurses were eating their words when they had to admit that the patients at the wealthy hospital were actually very nice, and in fact, the nicest bunch of patients that they had ever seen. This got my attention because it was blatant discrimination that all these nurses had  about wealth. 

They naturally hated all the patients before even meeting them. How did they become so prejudiced? Maybe the watched Little House on the Prairie and hated Nellie Olson.  Television shows, books and the turmoil hungry media likes to stir the pot and feed the myth that rich people are uncaring and greedy.

 Just remember its not true, and don't allow yourself or your children to get caught up in it. Some of the meanest and nastiest people I have personally come in contact with are people of average means. 

They frequently displayed traits of being extremely greedy, mean, prejudiced and hateful. I worked as a laborer in my early years of being an entrepreneur and contrary to what the average television watcher will think, the wealthy people who employed me did not exploit me, humiliate me, or profit unfairly from by blood and sweat, but the middle class people were often mean, and spoke to me in a demeaning and hateful way. 

Now back to giving children what ever they want.

When you give children what they want, you and your children miss out on a very important lesson in life. A lesson that could result in a healthy building block to success, and can help build a solid fiscal foundation for the future. Once grown up, children can't simply smile and get what they want anymore. To give gifts out of the softness of your heart does not prepare you child for reality. No one other than you will ever be so soft.

Allowance is an important part of learning.

If your children do not have an allowance, they will not learn the basic concept of seeing their money disappear on things they choose to spend on. Financial decision making starts with the very first allowance. If you give a child $1, and he sees a candy for .75 cents, he has to decide if he really wants that candy or if he wants to save that dollar until he can afford something better than the candy.

This inner discipline is vital to self control with larger amounts of money in the future. Children need to understand that their money will not simply come back by nagging someone who has more than they do, such as you when they are young, and such as their friends, their boss, or even you again when they are adults.

A strong adult provides for himself. He does not blame others for what he does not have, but he makes it happen for himself. By not giving handouts, and repeatedly caving in whenever asked for something you are stimulating your child's inner entrepreneur, and forcing him to ask and wonder how on earth he can possibly get those things he desires.

Nagging, sulking, or indulging in jealousy towards those who have achieved will never result in anything positive. Have you noticed that there are more and more people expressing their dislike of "rich people?"

I have noticed this, and recall some of my relatives who achieved little in life constantly complaining that the Queen of England has it made, and the little people should strip her of her belongings, ect, ect. This mentality easily trickled down to their children who have naturally grown up into dysfunctional adults. They have become complainers with even less to offer society than their parents had. Would taking down Buckingham Palace solve anyone's problems? The simple answer is NO. Lets say everyone in England got a little something when the royal family was dismantled. The windfall the people would receive would be spent and then the little people would have one less institution to attack and blame for their lack of funds. Everyone would spend the "gift" they received and then it would be gone forever, but the royal family and all the money that it generates would be gone too. It would be destroying something that results in no change.

I can personally think of some of my family members who were given a lump sum of money from either a deceased relative, or a lucky day in Las Vegas.  They usually become happy and uplifted right away and then spend their way back to poverty just as some famous lottery winners have.

Why does this happen?  Simply because they are not good money managers. They did not learn the lesson when they were young with a small allowance, and now as adults they can quickly eliminate their money, no matter how much it is, and return to where they are typically in life. That could mean living paycheck to paycheck or it could mean, consistently being 10K in debt. Whatever the individuals "typical" situation is, people will find their way back to mediocrity no matter how much money is given to them.

Destroying the royal family, taxing the rich and begging your parents for money is not the answer. These are the answers that desperate people have for an issue that is much more complex.

Your children need to be better, and stronger adults than the typical person with no fiscal sense. That is what any good parent believes. But, they cannot learn to be better, and more financially literate than you are unless you yourself curb your own attitude and present a good, responsible role model.

 Financial irresponsibility and lack of understanding basic finances are what destroy the average person. You cannot solve money problems by taking from someone else so that you will have more to spend, because your lack of money management will forever lead you back to asking for more. Parents, the rich people, and the royal family do not have enough money to keep you going. Some people have learned that to get what they want they must learn the concept of money and they make an effort to discipline themselves into knowing how to make money grow. Imagine that!

Does that sound too good to be true?  It isn't.

How do you think the rich stay rich? They know how to make their money work for them. The poor work for money and the rich make money work for them. That means you must start somewhere. Instead of blowing your money on a huge screen television set, or a new Apple computer, you must make investments. One of the big differences between the rich and the average person is the rich invest and the middle class spend. You must have heard that the rich get rich and the poor get poor. Well, all your really need to do is emulate what the rich do instead of what the poor are doing.

Make investments with your money instead of throwing it away. This way your money will grow and grow. This is a basic concept and it is not digested easily within a few hours. If you are serious about making changes in your life that will ultimately affect your child's future, this frame of mind must be nurtured.

For more motivational and financial help to broaden your focus I recommend you read. The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, and Rich Dad Poor Dad. I have them listed on the right side under, My Picks.

These books will give you a foundation for steering your mind on the right path to helping your children rise above the mediocrity that may have plagued your own family for decades. 


How To Teach Children Money